From CRITICISM: A TRILOGY
The Road To Perfection
The harshest critic is usually the Judge within you
taking over the task begun by your parents.
Perhaps it’s time to send that judge down the road –
and to exile the Judge’s soul-mate, the Victim --
that pin-cushion Martyr, with arrows by the hundreds
sticking into him or her from all angles.
Do you set higher standards for yourself
than you do for others? Isn’t that Vanity?
Why be so slow to forgive yourself for making errors,
when you would so quickly forgive a friend?
Do you think you can achieve Perfection?
If so, you’ve already made one big mistake.
Accept the fact that the Road to Perfection
has not been completed -- nor will it ever be.
Check all your baggage except for one knapsack,
then tear up the ticket and travel light.
Let the Judge and Victim trudge toward Perfection,
while you head toward Fulfillment instead.
Peer into a mirror as if it were a window
looking out on a garden.
Then step outside into that garden
and just admire it for a while.
Now you may look around for weeds,
but go slowly and carefully with the hoe.
Every new sprout is not an evil alien invader
on a mission to choke your petunias.
Welcome some wildflowers,
like Spontaneity and at least a little Risk.
Trust Helen Keller -- “Life is a daring adventure or nothing.
Security is mostly a superstition. ”
Take time often to water your garden,
but not with a fire hose.
Compassion is a persistent shower,
but a gentle one --
Enough to wash the dust from the leaves
and refresh the thirsty roots.
Now go somewhere else
and do something different.
Come back in the morning light to see how well
the garden grew during the night --
Simply because you turned it over and left it alone --
trusting that all would be well. It is.
An Earworm for You
“Has anybody here --
seen a judge and a victim?
Can you tell me where they hide?”
“I thought I saw them trudgin’
Down the road to Perfection,
with Anger, a Martyr, and Pride.”